Tuesday, 1 December 2015

I DON'T FIGHT TO PROTECT

    Just 3 year back I meet an unknown person, he came to me with his problem. For around 1 year he was active enough. With time he came out of mesh and get stable life.

    Where he is now ?

    I don't even know.

    Sunday, A Nice day to take rest. As usual I was trying to sleep. Suddenly get disturbed by ping-ping. It was just #WhatsAPP message, which I choose to ignore.

    After couple of hours, I read the message, just Hi from old friend. Old but not forgotten, yes we meet rarely now, but still live in memories. After a casual hi hello and other formalities, he directly came to the point.

    Around one year back he send one marriage proposal of well educated and working women. Good enough. That time I just ignored, didn't even replied back. No I am not saying I didn't replied him back, I am saying I didn't replied anything about proposal. I choose the best way (mute) to answer.

    Probably he didn't understand the language of silence and asking again. This time I choose to say NO loud enough. Hope the situation wont be back again.

    Well my point is not about marriage proposal or yes or no, but I didn't understand : she is well educated and working women, why she is  still unmarried even after one year. Why didn't she get married with an unemployed men or may be less earning men, there are lakhs of good men (by nature men is good, except a few like me). Sorry again entering in wrong cabin, where I am not allowed. It is #HerChoice to get marry with earning men (may be rich enough, who can pay her). No comment on #HerChoice or #HerVoice.

    But I just wanted to indicate on the wording by which friend tried to convince me. looks like we are just born to marry & kids. A role of #Protector.

    I am just loosing track, just like almost everyone. Today I can see a lot of brother fighting for <something>, calling themselves MRA. Good to see them, read them, meet them. But I never understand why they always talk about Family Protection (not all but most). I can see them discussing why family system in India broken, interestingly they find the answer in well established reason TV Serials, Films etc.

    No I am not against them, but I never understand how family protection is related to #MensRight ? Oh yes family is centre of Indian Society, but if Family can protect #MensRight, Indian History would not rise on Dead bodies of #Men. Looks like MensRight Movement in India is turning into #ProtectFamily Movement or people joining #MensRight movement are not getting proper education and they are confused between #SaveFamily & #MensRight. Their ultimate aim is turned into #SaveFamily.

    They are playing the role of #Protector. Looks like they #Born to protect, just to protect, not to live like #Men. Once these people come out of mesh, they get stable life/family, their aim is over and we wont see them again.

    I just wanted to say these people. Excuse me I don't fight for family protection. Family is nothing but a tool to  Harassment for Men. I wanted to live like Men and for that I need My Rights back.



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Gursharn Singh