RAKSHABANDAN is threat on EQUALITY

10-Aug-2014, Its rakshabandan today. Should I say Happy Rakshabandan ? From dead memories, I can recall an incident from available history.

Rani Karnavati took up the regency in the name of her elder son Vikramjeet, a weak ruler. In the meantime, Mewar was attacked for the second time by Bahadur Shah of Gujarat, at whose hands Vikramjeet had earlier received an defeat. It was a matter of great concern for Rani. The antagonized nobles were not ready to fight for Vikramjeet and the imminent battle was sure to be another blot in the history of Sisodias. Rani Karnavati wrote to the nobles to come forward for the sake of the honour of the Sisodias, and was able to persuade the nobles to fight for Mewar, if not for Vikramjeet. Their sole condition was that Vikramjeet and Uday Singh should go to Bundi during the war for their personal safety. Rani also sent a Rakhi to Mughal Emperor Humayun, calling him a brother and asking for help. Thus her name became irrevocably linked to the festival of Raksha Bandhan.

Why I remember this part of history ? The best answer i can think of is it remind me a job given to us by society, without any reward. Why Rani Karnawati send rakhi ? When she send ? Was it the first time when she send ? Thousands  of question but history is mute. No-one really ready to tell or find the reason, still rakhi is glorified to teach us. Teach What, Why and Who ?

Lord Ram is one of the globally accepted god in Hindu religion. In Ramayana Lord Ram himself accepted Ravan as all time great scholar ( vidvan ). In short what ravan said must be having great meaning. Ravan talk about MAYA used by women to do the job. The same i can see in karnawati and humayu relation, The dark moment of history, which was never told to us. Why Karnawati send at the time, when she was in danger ? Why not next year or next to next year or previous year ? History failed to tell us if the relation was before or continue after this incident. It clear the motive behind was to get help during war by playing emotion game. History tell us she get help, but failed to tell us who paid for the same. Who lost lives in war ?

No history available which can tell me where from rakhi was started and what was real motive but today it is just an emotion game to get free bodyguard so that when time come there will be a person to die in exchange.

Its time to wake-up, we are not toys to play with emotion. Fight but for you and your own right to live. You are not here to die for someone else. Demand of equity (or greater) is on rise, still some females want someone to die for them, why ? Rakshabandan is nothing but a way to GLORIFIED the victims. Its great threat to equality.

RAKSHABANDAN is threat on EQUALITY.

This forced equality doesn't stop, thousands example can be seen in daily life :

1. MALE paying bills in hotel
2. MALE draging punchered bike on ROAD
3. MALE droping their seat so that able FEMALE can sit
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6. List is endless 

Gursharn Singh
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DAMAN WELFARE SOCIETY
www.daman4men.in

ROCKET SCIENCE BEHIND RAPE - 001

In Sara kingdom one day a couple was presented in front of king with the allegations that they have physical relation which is not acceptable by citizens of sara as well as by Law. This was a strange case in front of king and he was not able to take decision who is really responsible, the boy or girl. Finally king decided to send the boy out of city to break the relation. Yes king succeed in breaking relation but was it justice served or it was an act to promote injustice (RAGA a collection of short stories).

Many time, many talk about legal and social facts of rape. Many ask for tough law and capital punishment for rapist. Do they really Understand what is rape. Recently I asked from 10 different people if they know which IPC applicable in rape cases and if they can define IPC 376. Unfortunately out of 10, 7 even failed to tell which IPC applicable and only one was able to tell what is IPC 376. And the dark side is out of 10, 6 demanded a tough law.

Scientifically Rape is a kind of sexual intercourse or sexual penetration against individuals without his/her consent. The act may be carried out by physical force or when a person in incapable of giving consent. Scientifically Rape can be classified as :

1. Of Female
• By Male (F-M) - This is what in Indian society considered as Rape.
• By Female (F-F) - Normally termed as Lesbian Rape.
2. Of Male
• By Female (M-F) - Indian Society completely deny from this type.
• By male (M-M) - Indian society still don't accept such rape.

Scientifically rape is considered as PENETRATION but in general rape is accepted as VAGINAL penetration, and that is where, it become as issue of GENDER and people start considering RAPE as CRIME AGAINST WOMEN.

A few ready to accept all four kind of Rape still they consider the first type (F-M) as the most common type. But truth and statistics don't support such believes. At national level statistics not available so we need to look at international level.

CDC study reveal the following facts :

• F-M :: 20 %
• M-F :: 4.8 %
• M-M :: 1 out of 71
• F-F ::

These statistics  shows although F-M rape are higher then other types still rest can't be ignored, specifically M-F. According to the U.S. Department of Justice, more men are raped in the U.S. than women, according to figures that include sexual abuse in prisons.

In India society consider F-M rape as real rape rest they deny without any reason or survey. Although Indian society & Indian Law consider F-M rape as rape still there are many reports in which male were raped by females.

A Few month back a boy was kidnapped by a group of females for their physical needs, that also is rape but legally justice is denied because IPC 376 applicable on F-M rape.

There are many such cases, unfortunately not only Indian society buy Law Makers also mute. One of the common logic behind this behaviour is M-F rape are rare in India. Although there is no study which show this as fact, still is not this JUSTICE DENIED.

In past few year physical relation between Boy & Girl below 18 year also termed as Rape, without knowing the fact that both were agree. Who is really responsible for such act boy or girl ? 15 year boy has relation with 15 year girl, who is really responsible ? Indian society and Indian Law only consider boy as rapist. Why ? Is not society declaring that girls are immature in 15 year age but boys are mature enough ? If both are equal in society and Law then how only one can be punished by an act of two ?

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Gursharn Singh

DAMAN WELFARE SOCIETY

www.daman4men.in

INDIA A STATE WITH EMOTION & LAW STANDING TOGETHER

Long time ago in North Hills a king and his kingdom was known for his his Law, Justice and Implementations. Citizens of state were also aware about their rights. One day king went to forest with his son. Because of his son one men was killed and his son was found guilty. This was the first time when kings reputation was tarnished because he failed to provide justice, he was emotionally attached with his son and he let him free (part of series of story and cartoon show coming soon).

Why ? One incident and kings fame was nowhere because he choose emotion over Justice. Where he was wrong ? What happen to his kingdom ? What happen to his son ? How citizens of kingdom reacted ? All and many more question rise but they are not part of this story. Let me come to the point.

When and wherever JUSTICE & EMOTION move together justice cant be ensured. India where society is emotionally attached with females expecting justice for Male is dream or fantasy. Let us see what happen when emotion and justice stand together.

Murder : One person coming back from office late night. His parents, wife and kids waiting at home but he never returned back because he was murdered for some reason. As per Law the criminal must be punished and he get what he deserved. Law and Justice not worrying about victims parents, wife and kids just because they are not part of Law. Law is there to just ensure justice not to see beyond the limit of crime. Here what happen to parents, wife and kids can't be the part of justice. Punishment is same in both the cases, if the men is one ans only son of family or family has 3 son.

Rape : One female (scientifically male also can be victim of rape but there is no law for MALE RAPE so i exclude that) when coming back late night, she was raped by someone. She is alive, she return back for those waiting at home. Law must be drafted to provide justice. The person must be punished. What should be punishment is matter of debate but one thing is confirm it can't be same as in murder. Why ?

Is our Law drafted for the same ? No. Here Law took a different path from what it suppose to take. In case of murder the accused is assumed to be INNOCENT until he is proved CRIMINAL. That is correct because no-one can be criminal until proved. IO can be wrong and in many cases it happen. But when it is RAPE law took entirely different path, Is start from the assumption that ACCUSED is CRIMINAL and he will be CRIMINAL until he is proved INNOCENT. There can be thausands of logic behind this assumption but one of them is how she can prove ? I am asking how he can prove ? If female can't prove situation doesn't change for male.

Here at-place of serving justice LAW and COURTS start playing with emotion. The most popular logic is SHE WILL DIE EVERYDAY AFTER RAPE. Why and how it is part of JUSTICE. She may be disturbed or may not be no-one knows but it is not part of JUSTICE it is part of society.

When LAW & EMOTION stand together Rape looks like a much bigger crime then MURDER but when we stand where on LAW & JUSTICE exist MURDER is much bigger crime and it must be.

India where society is not only emotional but biased toward females. Law maker must carefully exclude EMOTION from JUSTICE. Unfortunately Law maker failed at this point and Delhi HC commented about this in one of his judgment regarding.

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Coming Blogs :

Read and Study IPC 376 before saying we need tough LAW. (3/8/2014)

Why most of LIVE-IN male partner finally termed as RAPIST. (31/8/2014)

Conviction rate in MURDER & RAPE and difference. (September 2014)

Series of short stories about kingdom in North Hills. RAGA. (15-aug-2014)

Animation Cartoon series on RAGA stories. (2015)

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Gursharn Singh
DAMAN WELFARE SOCIETY
www.daman4men.in
gursharn76@gmail.com
9160352208

MARRIAGE MY STAND

After Long Day I earn 200 /- and in the end i can save 100 /-

Where to Invest this 100 /- ?

I take a lot of time then decide the right place and If there is risk involved people avoid.

(1) Are we doing the same with own life ?

(2) Are we considering the risk involved in marriage where entire life is going to be invested ?

(3) Is there enough statistics available for such calculation ?

(4) Is it necessary to calculate such risk ?



My answer are simple :

(1) No we are not thinking about this because marriage is not a business.

(2) No risk factor is considered.

(3) No statistics available.

(4) Depends on what my final AIM is. If my ultimate achievement is marriage then defiantly no reason left for consideration the risk factor. If my ultimate goal is live and let live then yes we need to consider the risk factor involved.



Is the idea of getting marriage really bad or It is extrapolated ?

Let us first consider how many chances are there to ...............

For Statistics let us consider Sri Ganganagar, Rajasthan a small district.

Number of Divorce Application Every Day = 10
(source Rajasthan Patrika)

Number of Divorce Application Every Year =3650 ~ 3500

Population ~ 20 Lakh

Now consider population equally distributed in every age group 0-10, 10-20, 20-30, 30-40, 40-50, 50-100 (total 6 age group)

Number or people in between 20-30 = 20/6 Lakh = 3.3 Lakh
(20-30 is valid marriage age)

There can be a few more from 30-35 = 1.5 Lakh

Total marriage age group = 4.8 Lakh

These 4.8 Lakh will marry in next 15 year
(assumed equally distributed)

Every year number of person marrying = 4.8/15 Lakh = 0.32 Lakh = 32000

out of 32000 half ladies population and half gents. That means only 16000 marriage every year.

Every Year marriage = 16000
(assumed every one getting marriage within district)

But this assumption may not be true so safe side 20000 or 25000 marriage every year can be considered.

If 20000 then marriage failure rate = 17.5 %
If 25000 the marriage failure rate = 14 %

In short failure rate is around 15-20 % in small city.
What will happen in mega/metro cities.

What I am going to lost after a such marriage :

(1) JOB : first thing which I am going to loose is my job which I get after 25 years hard work.

(2) ARREST : There are  chances that I will be arrested without investigation. I may need to spend a few days (vary from a couple of days to months) behind bar. At the same time my parents, married sisters, married brothers also can be send to jail.

(3) MONEY : It's a long battle in court which may extend from 5 yr to 10 yr or may be long and during that time period lakhs of rupees can be wasted.

(4) FAITH : Least but not Last my faith in Judiciary System is going to tarnish and does not matter what i did for past 25-30 years but Once the faith is gone I will be open to committee CRIMES.

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Gursharn Singh
gursharn76@gmail.com
9160352208

WHAT are the building block for false cases in IPC 498A ?

Every Year in India around 1 Lakh cases registered in IPC 498A.

Does that mean every year 1 lakh families demanding dowry ?

If we consider 5 family members registered for every dowry case that means 5 Lakh people going to jail for demanding dowry.


If i demand dowry and the i went to jail for the same reason there are chances i wont support dowry again. Is this happening ?

We need to see the statastics :

5 Lakh people learn every year

Every case involve three families on average (self, sister and brother)

3 Lakh families rising against dowry every year.

If we include a couple of neighbours too then the rising families will be large in number.

How many families are there in India ?

If this is true number of dowry cases should decrease every year.

Still the number of dowry cases rising every year.

WHY ?



Why IPC 498A is not able to finish dowry from India Society ?

Is it because of Law itself or some hidden reasons are there ?


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Answer hidden within the question itself. Most of people teaching their daughter from birth :

(1) FIL and MIL and husbands are dowry seeker.
(2) They are cruel and can kill you for some money.

After growing the lady follow the same concept and when go to different house and suddenly she found something different and not able to tolerate the same. Result is nothing more then dowry case against HUSBAND, HUSBAND'S FATHER and MOTHER, HUSBAND'S SISTER AND HER HUSBAND and almost all nearby relatives. Sometime Illegal relations also responsible for false cases.

None of them are valid reason for dowry case but as filling dowry cases is easy (no proof or evidence required and immediate arrest) and finally when case is found false no punishment for wife or her parents encourage the misuse.

Finally the Law designed to punish criminals finally punishing innocents which finally creating more criminals.

A person who support dowry less marriage will never support again after a long legal battle.

Why he should support dowryless marriage ?
Why not he demand dowry and fight at place of fight for years without demanding ?

Shortcomings in Law finally creating 5 Lakh families every year who support dowry.




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Gursharn SIngh
gursharn76@gmail.com
DAMAN WELFARE SOCIETY
www.daman-kanpur.in

Women is Source of our Lives on Earth ?

Someone said :

Women is the sources of our lives in this Earth ?

Is the statement true ?

I completely disagree if this is the truth nature won't create men.

Remind me one story :

One Teacher send his students to find a plant which is useless. Some students came back after one day, some other came after a week ... but one of the student came back after many years with the statement that he failed to find such plant. and finally the teacher said your education is completed.

 In short nature never create something useless. Natural existence of man is ultimate proof that women is not the source of life. Man and Women both responsible for the life. Neither man alone give birth nor women can.



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Gursharn Singh
gursharn76@gmail.com
9160352208
DAMAN WELFARE SOCIETY
www.daman-kanpur.in

LOW CONVICTION rate in IPC 498A

IPC 498A Conviction rate is very Low (less then 2 %).

Every Year around 1 Lakh case registered in IPC 498A (www.ncrb.gov.in)

Out of 1 Lakh less then 2 % get convicted.

In Corruption/Murder etc Conviction rate is also Low specially when cases are against politicians system fail to provide justice that is what a normal Indian think of .... then why not the same apply in IPC 498A ?

Two questions pop-up in mind :

(1) Is the judicial system fail and most of dowry seeker get acquitted ?

(2) Most of case registred in IPC 498A are true ?

Yes. As a normal Indian I would conclude the same until I know the basic difference in IPC 498A and other IPC sections.

The basis difference lie within the system.

(a) Normally in any IPC it is assumed the accused is INNOCENT until proved otherwise. And because of inefficient system police and other agencies fail to prove him guilty and conviction rate stay Low.

(b) In IPC 498A situation is reverse and the accused is assumed to be GUILTY until proved otherwise. And at the same time wife's statement assumed true. Its accused responsibility to prove himself INNOCENT and accused put thier best afforts to prove. He provide best arguments and evidences and finally get acquitted.

The difference in the proceeding change the game : Normally in any IPC accused get aquited because police or investigation agencies fail to prove him guilty and in IPC 498A accused is proved Innocence in presence of evidences.

CONCLUSION : IPC 498A accused are proved INNOCENT in the light of evidences not because of absence of evidences and easy to think they are really Innocent and Victim of misuse.

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9160352208
www.daman-kanpur.in