QUESTIONAIRE ON UNIFORM CIVIL CODE : Q 001

 

 My Reply : Yes I know about Article 44 of Constitution.

Article 44 in The Constitution Of India 1949

44. Uniform civil code for the citizens The State shall endeavour to secure for the citizens a uniform civil code throughout the territory of India

    Yes I aware about Article 44 but question rise if our Govt know about Article 44. If yes can Law Commission & GOI can clear why & how a criminal women get more rights then an innocent men ? Also I wanted to know how a criminal women is not punished or less punishment by our system, even if her fault is proved beyond any dough.

    Yes a lot need to do before the proposed UCC : First thing first remove gender bias from our Law and establish UCC in between genders.

TRAINED MIND

    Just few minute back discussion with a friend about a city (let us say city X). Somehow a statement comes that city X is having higher crime rate compare then other cities. Source is ... ... .defiantly not NCRB.

    I am still confused except NCRB, what other source we have about crime rates. My mistake I forget the biggest source we use in India is not NCRB but our mind. Our biggest source is what we believe, does not matter if sported by statistics or not.

    Because here the source was 'what we believe' so the discussion turned toward kidnapping of girls (why ? Because of an incident recorded in my earlier blog).

    Question is what happen if a girl goes out after evening ?

    My mother believe girls won't come back if goes out after dark. Her source is .. .. . . .frankly I don't know, even she has not seen anyone or heard any incident.

    In my life I never meet a single person who really can say he has seen or in his relative or near friends has seen kidnapping or heard of it, but I have meet thousands of people believe it a serious issue specially for girls.

    Still trying to understand what a serious crime which is never seen or heard in life or in circle even not in my society even I never get a reference. Yes I have seen it in papers. But have seen a lot in paper, even more then others.

    Truth is in India total number of kidnapping during 2014 is nearly 77000, looks like a small number when looking at the population of more then 150 crore.

    Even the number which I have concern about is how many kidnapping because of 'GIRL WENT OUT AFTER EVENING'. To get the number we need to subtract male kidnapping out of 77000, then we need to subtract kidnapping where the age is less then 10 year and may be age more the 50 year (55 year), then we need to subtract those candidate not really kidnapped but showed as kidnapping because of some reason (earning / boy friend etc).

    Although there is no way to get real number but I believe the number of kidnapping because 'GIRL WENT OUT AFTER DARK/EVENING' will be just a fraction of 77000, for safe side let say 5000-10000.

    My personal view is this number 5 to 10 thousand is not great when we look at population. But my arguments are countered by a simple misleading statement that number is less because girls don't go out after dark. When we speak about small cities and towns I have not seen to many male also out on roads after dark and when we think about big cities today in 2016, ratio of male & female on road after dark is almost 1.

    All this remind me of one previous incident (again this i recorded in previous blog) of discussion about rape with a lady. Simple argument out of 3, 1 male is rapist. When i asked who is rapist at your home your father, your brother or your husband. Her father and brother were saint and her husband was also not rapist, still didn't get answer where all the rapist hiding because every lady claim her father and brother are saint.

    But we don't have any argument for trained mind, educating mind is possible but not easy.

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Gursharn Singh

DAMAN WELFARE SOCIETY

www.daman4men.in

CARE TAKER

    Just a few week back when I was traveling from Delhi to Vizag, next to me was a couple with a kid of may be 1 year or 2 year old.

    So what ?

    Normally I never care who is next to me because I travel with books, but the kid was too much irritating and it was next to impossible to focus on book so I focused on kid. Sweet kid.

    Although there is nothing special to mention but what I wanted to share is who was playing the role of care taker. Yes the men, the father was solo care taker, the lady was just eating, eating and more eating. Even if i push my mind beyond every boundary still I can't remember when the lady did some thing for the kid. Even on airport too, when we were waiting for boarding men was playing care taker. I am not saying the lady was cruel or ignorant toward kid, I just wanted to say men was solo care taker during journey.

    One can say it one incident.

    One can say it was just couple of hours.

    One can say it may not happen inside house.

    Yes I agree this is small incident. Yes it was during journey. But I have lot of example. I have seen almost every friend saying "FEELING SLEEPY". why ? Because of kid. But I never see a friend (male) who saying kid was weeping and he was sleeping without caring. No-one from my friend circle told me kid is responsibility of Mother (solo).

    MOTHER IS SOLO CARE TAKER OF KID. Yes this is new stand of Modi Govt.

    One can say not Modi but NCW. I would say NCW is allowed to do anything by Modi Govt only. Mr. Modi can do a lot of good change but he can’t deny his responsibility from such stand.

    So for all Indian men what I can suggest is :

• When you kid need you please call his mother, because Govt want this.
• When kid need to change cloths, remember govt had given this responsibility to Mother.
• When kid want to play with you, please call his mother.
• When kid ....
• When kid ....
• When kid ....

    What do you think I am joking ?

    No this is new face of #IndianFather Accepting of Rejecting  please choose as per your convenience.

    Yes choice is yours, you can take extra burden on you, but never forget "YOU ARE JUST ATM JUST ATM"

    There are "emotional side" too for this stand, but as I am not too much emotional, I won't talk about that.



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Gursharn Singh
www.daman4men.in
gursharn76@gmail.com

I #SayNo2Silver

#SayNo2Silver

    Yes I am talking about silver medal in Olympic. Its proud moment for India that an Indian won silver medal. Still I wanted to say no. Why ?

    Early Morning when i wake-up i find the news of silver medal, I was happy, yes I was happy. Soon the happy moment turn into a moment of shame for me. Not even for me but for entire #Male population of #India. Why ?

Let us see what #India is telling about #Male community after winning #Silver.

----- 50 % Population of India is Killer, Truth is as per AIIMS 46 % female & 48 % male forticide -----

रियो ऑलिम्पिक

* पी.वी सिंधु 🇮🇳ऑलिम्पिक रजत पदक जीतनेवाली प्रथम भारतीय महिला है।
* हार्दिक अभिनंदन।*
भारत को एक बार फिर एक बेटी ने गौरवान्वित किया।

एक सन्देश ...

करते रहे गुनाह हम, केवल *बेटे के शौक में*....
कितने मेडल मार दिए, *जीते जी ही कोख में*....
----- Another on -----

बेटियाँ
"For the Indian girls at Rio...

They defeated the ultrasound that declared 'it' was a 'she'.

They defeated the nurse declaring in a sombre tone 'ladki hai'.

They defeated murderous parents or even worse those who keep them alive but kill their spirit every single day.

They defeated the odds against them for parents "allowing" her to chase her dream.

They defeated the family pride that wants every Indian child to be a doctor or engineer.

They defeated the school teacher who said "it's not a girl's game".

They defeated bad sports infrastructure and even lack of healthy food needed to fuel the fire.

They defeated a system where overweight foreign travelling officials, who have only played Ludo as a sports, decide her fate.

They defeated the Dada-Nana who told her "good girls don't wear short clothes".

They defeated the Dadi-Nani who told her not to play in sun and become "kaali-kaluti."

They defeated friends who told her she needs to "control aggression and chill."

They defeated the pados waali Aunty ji who wondered "akele kahan-kahan ghumti hai aapki ladki."

They defeated the million eyes staring at her legs and not noticing the brilliant game she played.

They defeated the Bua jee and Mausi jee who ask "tum shadi kab karogi."

They defeated the journalist who asked her when she would "settle".

They defeated the cynics who thought they were pouting and clicking selfies on a fully paid foreign trip..

So dare not take even a slice of her glory by calling her HUMARI BETI!

They have achieved what they have not because of us. But despite us!"..-----

Enjoy the moment with a shame to be #Killer, I just #SayNo2Silver 

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Gursharn Singh